First, keep in mind that fear in motherhood is a common emotion that, like everyone else, must be felt and released. But in this society we have been told to seek distraction and find coping mechanisms. The problem with fear is that it is the most difficult emotion to be sitting with because we let this emotion control our body and brain, and we validate it with scary thoughts that feel uncomfortable and put ourselves on them.
If fears in motherhood are about to influence your quality of life, then it’s time to tackle them. If you don’t do that, fear will root in your conscious and subconscious mind, prevents you from being in the present and even pushing you into the decisions that you and your family can negatively influence. Keep this in mind: every decision that is made in fear is the wrong decision.
This happens when we do not tackle fears in motherhood: Tension
Here I am talking about chronic fear. Fear is not fear. Fear is that original emotion that you feel in the presence of a dangerous animal in the jungle. Fear is the product of our society because it is rarely about life or death situations. Usually it concerns sausage-case scenarios that we build in our head. I have experienced postpartum depression and fear, so believe me, I know a lot of these fictional scenarios. They are not real, but your mind convinces you that they are.
This happens when we do not tackle fears in motherhood: Mom Guilt
Mother guilt is probably the most talked about challenge in motherhood. But why is it a product of fear? That’s because when you live with chronic fear, your mind is always somewhere else, so you can’t be present with your children. If you are alone with yourself and think of the moments with your children, fear is always present and starts to crawl in because you feel that you cannot enjoy motherhood. Mom -debt is not always connected to fear, but this is an example of how the two are related.
This happens when we do not tackle fears in motherhood: Mam shame
The problem of the mother Shame is in line with the fault of the mother I discussed above. However, the emotion of shame goes much deeper than guilt. The chronic fear can easily cause guilt feelings, but also shame, especially if this emotion was part of your life for various reasons, many of which arise from the way you were raised. The fear reinforces shame. In addition, there is often the fear of judgment of other mothers, which causes even more shame.
This happens when we do not tackle fears in motherhood: Mother sorrow
The emotion of sadness is not directly connected to fear, but it can be the result of everything I have mentioned above. Feeling chronic fear, combined with guilt and shame, can bring a deep sense of sorrow that, just like a blanket, can cover your entire mother trip. Sadness is a deep emotion that is in the heart space. It is not “loud” like fear. It is more subtle and more difficult to tackle. If chronic fear, guilt -culprit and shame are behind sadness, it is good to tackle it. Mother Sadness is not always connected to fear, so it is important to understand the cause before you tackle it.
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