Place her first spiritual spa conference
So last weekend, my new friend Gigi van Inspiring. Here And Inspiring Trees of Hope Inc. completed her first annual with her first spiritual Spa conference in Henderson, Nevada, to Lake Las Vegas. I had the honor of being the afternoon keynote speaker for this fantastic one-day conference.
I met so many women, started important conversations with excellent leaders, made friends and even inspired a few ladies. We had extraordinary, intimate breakout sessions and even a chic black -white ball that support Lupus to close the night.
Freedom of relationships
During my keynote I had the opportunity to talk about a subject that I know so well: relationship of relationships. The speech title was: “Go off the ride, Sis: how you can navigate fear in your relationships.” And boy I was nervous! But I hit it out of the park, according to the feedback that I received from so many ladies that day, and I enjoyed doing it!
But I promised in my speech that I would share the take -away restaurants and the notebooks that I could not share with everyone in the session because of the time (apparently I am a bit long -winded, fun). So below you will find important points, take -away restaurants and supporting notebook that I shared last weekend!
How trust in God can help with your fear of relationships
Fear is something I know so well. I treated fear too early if I could remember. But my experience did not come from trauma, but it came from not understanding my god given by God. I am a very sensitive person, so I experience things and this world differently than most. Growing up in a society that does not elevate sensitive children, root for and empowered, my social fear became my silent murderer. Killer of my trust, ability to connect and having really healthy relationships as I got older.
Fear is not limited to trying something new. If we try something new, we are just anxious. But when those feelings and thoughts of doubt, worry, free, stress become unmanageable and influence your home life, work and relationships, it becomes the issue of fear.
Fear is now more common in relationships. We have just undergone a pandemic that changed the way we socialize and do relationships forever. So much had fallen into relationships, and some had relationships that flourished in 2020. But one thing is certain that the growing distribution between mask/no mask and vaccination/non -vaccinated social fear creates that many of us, especially high sensitive individuals, create.
Main points:
I tend to relate my Angster experience to a roller coaster ride. Comes in the following different phases:
- Excitement/nervousness/stress
- Worry
- Doubt/uncertainty
- Fear
- Reality
We experience this in relationships, especially romantic – the ups and downs of an emotional roller coaster ride.
I also shared a relationship story with the ladies, which made me go to God in the wrong way, and he brought me well. Just like in 2 Corinthians 12: 8, I began to beg God to take the desire of love and marriage from me, because I was tired to make an effort and still fall short. And the Lord came for my life!
He said:
- Why do you try to control your relationships?
- You don’t know what you need. And you have not spent enough time with yourself to even be close to understanding what a love and relationship committed by God is.
- You didn’t ask me anything. How do you want me to step where you don’t invite me?
God brought me all right!
So my writing that I holds when navigating my fear is:
Throw all your worries [all your anxieties, all your worries, and all your concerns, once and for all] For him, because he cares about you [with deepest affection, and watches over you very carefully]. 1 Peter 5: 7 Ampère
There is something about throwing your worries on him that reduces the power of fear and removing it from the pedal stool of our mind. During my therapy journey and growing I learned that healing began when I decided to discover how God perceives fear. And because of the word I was able to see fear of what it is, made up in my mind, and now I have the power to overcome relationships once and for all.
Practical tips to stop fear when it starts
You cannot always determine what is happening outside. But you can always determine what is happening inside. “-Wayne -Doger
Tip #1: Breath, sister!
Fear first attacks the body: do what your mind and body calmly soothes. Get away!
Tip #2- Make a choice, sister!
God gave us the power to choose. Choose how you will deal with your thoughts and worries. How far this fear will go. Are your life with truth or scenarios? Cherishing your trust to make decisions, say no and honor yourself or the relationship at the moment is a way in which you can strengthen your strength about fear.
Tip #3: Let go, sister!
Content is not about settling, but it is about not coming out. You separate the satisfaction from the outcome, reduces the possibility for your identity to get lost in the results. Practice happiness every day as fear usually thrives when we think, try to control the future and emphasize the outcome.
The secret sauce
Fear is happy to make us weird, different and a problem for others. Want to insulate ourselves from others, so that we cannot be hurt, discovered or rejected. At that moment we hurt ourselves, Onteren our uniqueness and we reject ourselves.
Last but not least, I know that you have all been waiting for the secret sauce, and I tell you that it will do a good hamburger, to shame Chick File sauce.
The secret sauce to overcome relationship fear is to trust God!
Trust the Gentleman With all your heart; Don’t hang depending on your own concept. Proverbs 3: 5
Trust the Gentleman always, for the Gentleman God Is the eternal rock. Isaiah 26: 4
Trust that God will do:
- Lead your steps in the unknown.
- Give your reward.
- Be your safe place.
Brings trust in God:
- New power.
- Joy and peace, trust, courage and hope.
- Pleasure.
- Beauty for you.
- A non -potted state.
- No shame
To decrease
So when closing, we know that the relationship is something. But it doesn’t have to be the thing that you are robbed of joy, peace, freedom and love in your life. Take the necessary steps that help you not be worried. Write Philippians 4: 6-7 in your heart and show gratitude.
Don’t worry about anything; Pray about everything instead. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for everything He has done. Then you will experience God’s peace that surpasses everything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and spirits if you live in Christ Jesus.
You have a choice in this issue. Get rid of God, lean on those who will help you break down the walls that build up fear, and ultimately allow peace to live in your heart and spirit. Remember that fear is a freela loader and peace will do it best to pay the rent. Who would you like to live in your house with?
All in all,
I did not share this as the solution, but to inspire every woman who attends the conference to be their solution. If it is the therapy you need, do it. The practical tips I have shared in this message work for you and then do it. If you have to spend more time in the word, do it. And always recite this in your mind during the trip:
It’s time to reclaim my peace! My God is bigger than fear! I am his daughter! And fear recognizes you better!
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