Motherhood can be a scary transition because your life will never be the same as your mother. What nobody tells you is that motherhood is also an incredible chance of growth and transformation. Unfortunately, the story in this patriarchal society is focused on fear and disproportionate women, especially mothers. It is important to be aware of common fears in motherhood, because consciousness is the key, but we have to power mothers and draw attention to female power.
In this blog post I want to increase the awareness of common fears so that you can identify them when they show up, know how often they are and know that you are not alone. In the following messages we will discuss what happens if you do not tackle these fears and how you can overcome them. My intention with my work as a parent coach and spiritual healer is to teach you how to overcome the fears of motherhood through the power of intuitive tools and energy removal. For every fear below in motherhood I will add a quick tip to support you during your mother’s trip.
Common fears in motherhood (first mom)
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Keep your child alive
This is the most common fear in motherhood called by pregnant women. In addition to giving birth and fear of pain, the following thought will survive. Because nobody teaches you how to be a mother, the fear of not keeping your child alive after birth can be overwhelming and in some cases it can cause intrusive thoughts. I have experienced this, so if you experience intrusive thoughts related to the survival of your child, then know that they are just thoughts. Let them pass them without attaching meaning to them.
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Dealing with changes
Many changes occur in the female body during pregnancy, birth and postpartum, from physical to hormonal, mentally and emotional. In addition, your life and everyday habits go through a radical change. This can cause fear. Start accepting where you are in the present moment and know that it is temporary. Acceptance of this transition ritual is the key to dealing with these changes. Then open to ask for help if necessary.
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Grieving old identity
If you become a mother, your life will never be the same again. But motherhood is different from other important events in life, such as graduation and marriage. Maternity is dead and rebirth for a woman. The day a child is born, it is also the day the mother is born. It’s okay to mourn your old life. Feeling your grief is essential to overcome it. Allow yourself to be with your grief and express it. It is good to cry and let it go. It will pass. You are not that sad. Let it come and go as a teacher.
Common fears in motherhood (evergreen)
Although the fears mentioned above in motherhood are more about the early stages of motherhood, some fears can continue to exist throughout your mother’s trip. These can appear from time to time or become chronic and influence your mental and emotional health.
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Not enough
You are afraid that you are not a good mother and that you will ruin the lives of your children. There is no manual for instructions for motherhood, and parenting experts do not exist. Motherhood is a personal experience that can only fulfill if you learn to become aware of your challenges and accept, inner work, listen to your intuition, forgive yourself when you make mistakes and do your best every day. There is no formula, but this is a quick summary of what is needed to be happy in motherhood. More about this later.
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Lose yourself
You feel that you are sacrificing too much of yourself in motherhood. You are afraid that you will lose yourself. It is easy to lose yourself in motherhood, not only because it comes an instinct to put your child for your needs, but also because of social pressure. I’m afraid I shouldn’t agree with this story. I put my children first, but I also put myself in the first place because the lesson I learned to go through my postpartum depression and fear is that if the mother is not happy, her children are not happy either.
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Losing control
As much as we like to say ‘my child’, children are not ours. They are not ours. They are sovereign beings and we cannot control them. Somehow we often want control in motherhood, or how long they sleep or what they eat, but that is now how motherhood goes. We usually have to release control, and this can be scary because we have to accept the unknown.
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