Breakfast is made and the church is only an hour or so removed. When you wake up your child (ren) to prepare, you will be greeted with the dreaded …
I don’t want to go to church !!!!!
Calm Mama Chyna!
Number 1: Don’t take it personally!
I had to learn this about myself. Lord knows that he is on fire for him, you can consume from time to time. The fire that you want to involve everyone in the growth you make.
But you can’t always think that everyone will show the same excitement for what you are enthusiastic about. This also includes your children in this statement.
Love
So I’ve been there Mine The church that is five years old in June, I started to visit my baby girl 4 months before the birth of my baby girl. There have been so many ups, downs and transitions in the process, but one thing I know is that I have grown enormously.
Avah began to attend the Ministry of Children at the tender age of 3 months old (yes, I had trouble leaving her at that age for just an hour and a half, the New Mother Blues). So I brought her to church almost every Sunday, most Wednesday and events on Friday or Saturday.
I remember that when my mother first gave her life to Christ and started to serve that I was always in church until the point in my late teenage years, I started to choose not to go when she went (in my rebellious state). If only I knew what I knew now … SMH!
I probably broke my mother’s heart so often when I refused to go to church, but she can now praise him for the manifestation of so many prayers she had over my heart to church. So I was reminded when I prepared Avah for the church and those words came from her little 4-year-old mouth:
“I don’t want to go to church!”
Although it initially hurt me, I understood where she came from and I started to think of ways to show her the benefits of spending time in a religious community.
The Bible says:
Train means teaching, offering good development and presenting itself on war.
Thinking back when I was a teenager, my biggest obstacle was my lack of understanding. I did not understand why going to church was so important for growth, community and progression in the journey of faith. As 4 years old, I don’t expect her to understand, so I have to split it into her language.
In some ways I have processed this:
I had to live everything I expect for her to learn at home about faith at home.
This was a big one because I had to model all aspects of the life of a religious life. I only started to listen to Christian music in the car, watch more faith -based films and let her pray, read my Bible and worship more for her.
I had to understand what it can be like at a child at every church event.
So when I started to devote my life completely to Christ again, I was as a volunteer and was at every event. After a while I got the same appearance from her that I gave to my mother. However, you can all be insight as a mother for the church mission, even if you are not at the event.
I had to develop a better understanding of the importance of relationship in the religious community for myself.
Although I wanted Avah to understand the importance of the church so badly, I did not have a complete insight. I had to go back to the word about why it is important to collect with other believers. As I studied, I was better rested to share with her why it was good for us to go to church.
And let’s not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage each other, especially now that the day of his return is approaching. Hebrews 10:25
In the process of all this I had to find a way to talk about the faith where she would understand. So I came up with questions and answers to have an open dialogue and to learn more about what is going on in the little spirit of my child.
Ways to respond when your child does not want to go to church
Below I have compiled a list of answers and questions that can be asked about your child’s statement without influencing their opinion about faith and the church:
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Why don’t you want to go to church?
Just ask why. There is so much that we can learn by asking why. That is why your children love their young age and ask you why about everything.
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Has something happened in the church to make you feel like this?
I always like to ask this question because there are times when irresponsible things happen. I want to make sure I know what’s going on and with my child. So I am able to tackle any worries with the right people well.
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What do you not like to go to church?
Asking what they don’t like about the church helps you to better understand their needs. It also helps you to understand what can frustrate or intimidate them.
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Do you understand why Mama is going to church?
I love this question because it enables me to be vulnerable and share my story with my child. I feel that I have a place at my child’s table, so I can properly influence them through transparency.
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You don’t have to go to church to be loved by God. But he encourages us to make new friends who will help us during our trip.
With this statement you can concept the concept of unconditional love concepts with your child. Help them understand that working does not deserve our love, but God likes it when all his loved ones come together in his name.
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What are some good things that happen when you go to church?
Like most of us, we sometimes have to focus our focus on the positive rather than the negative of things. The same applies to your children. I had to remind my child of the things they enjoyed in the past when they were in the children’s church.
A church with children is a growing church.
My church has a great children’s control that placed the Sunday school that I had when I was young to shame. They do very well to teach and keep the church exciting for the children. Shoutout to Kidz World!
However, it is not their job to plant and water the seed seed in our children. Not to put pressure on you, but it is our responsibility for steward and cherishing our children.
All in all it hurts if my descendants do not feel the excitement that I feel to go to church. But it is also an indicator for holes that I have to fill. I grew my own concept to answer the questions that my child could have about faith.
Understand Mama. You will be the first representation of Jesus that your child (ren) will encounter. What do you want them to understand about Jesus by you? – Chyna Nicole
No pressure, but remember that success is where preparation and opportunities come together. Just in time for Easter Sunday! Although all church services are currently online (which is handy). One day we will put foot back in the church building and you can come across this answer. Know that you got this mom with Grace and Mercy!
I hope this message blesses at least one mom! Respond and share your experiences below.
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